Showing posts with label life-planning. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life-planning. Show all posts

Monday, October 19, 2009

No farting, please.

Or talking with your mouth full, or leaving the toothpaste open.

Small, nasty little habits we have, which can drill the small holes of annoyance through which happiness seeps out of a relationship. Everybody has them, the trick is identifying those you can´t absolutely bear near you. Like that awful smell that emanates from a day old gym shirt that´s still lying on the bathroom floor. Or putting on your makeup in the car. Although this may sound like we´re going into Seinfeld territory, there are some habits that really get you on the other side of pissed. And since they are habitual (hence their name) it is very possible that they will happen every day. Every day. For as long as you both shall live.

So, either be watchful and wary, running from them like a startled cat, or learn to accept and live with them. Because you have them too, and you may need some slack the next time those beans start making music.

Wednesday, September 9, 2009

It´s so simple, it gets complicated

Remember those fatefull words to that song? "I can´t help falling in love with you"? It´s no wonder so many relationships fail if we´ve been hearing this and other lies all our lives. Yes, lies, mentiras, Lügen. In a word, crap.

You may not be able to help finding somebody attractive. But "love at first sight" turns into "divorce in six months" if you expect a relationship to grow and mature based only on physical attraction.

And that´s why you need a plan. Thinking and willing yourself to love for ever, BEFORE you have a partner, makes you think more seriously about what kind of person you will want by your side for so long. Do you really think that you will be able to stand the little quirks you gloss over today, 10 years from now? No, really. The high pitched laugh, the snoring, the hairy legs (hers), the hairy back (his)... Feelings are not enough to get you through PMS once a month for years to come. Believe me.

So plan to win. In posts to come we´ll get into the how. Step by step.

Keep on reading and you´ll be able to sing "I can help falling out of love with you."