Monday, October 19, 2009

No farting, please.

Or talking with your mouth full, or leaving the toothpaste open.

Small, nasty little habits we have, which can drill the small holes of annoyance through which happiness seeps out of a relationship. Everybody has them, the trick is identifying those you can´t absolutely bear near you. Like that awful smell that emanates from a day old gym shirt that´s still lying on the bathroom floor. Or putting on your makeup in the car. Although this may sound like we´re going into Seinfeld territory, there are some habits that really get you on the other side of pissed. And since they are habitual (hence their name) it is very possible that they will happen every day. Every day. For as long as you both shall live.

So, either be watchful and wary, running from them like a startled cat, or learn to accept and live with them. Because you have them too, and you may need some slack the next time those beans start making music.

Tuesday, October 6, 2009

The best day in your life

It´s been an average Wednesday. As your hand extends to open the door, your mouth stretches from ear to ear. Your steps rap joyfully on the floor, taking you to where you´ll find the hug that greets you. That night, your head rests calmly on the pillow, and you know tomorrow is going to be another best day.
Let´s face it, if you think your wedding day was (or is going to be) the best day of your life, you might as well die: there´s nothing left to look forward to.
Your best day has to be this one. Today. An average Whateverday that takes you from sunrise to sunset, waking up to and going to sleep with, the person you feel happiest with.
That´s the target. I´m not saying that every day should be ideal, just that it could be. You shouldn´t need a big production, like a wedding, or a birthday, to feel great about your relationship. Because life happens every day, not just on your anniversary.
So go ahead, have crappy days, that´s ok. But have wonderful, average days, too.
You just have to find the person to share them with.